Know Your Dosha and Meet Your Perfect Match

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Everyone wants to find love, to be in love, and to stay in love. Sounds good, but how do we find that special someone? And even trickier, how do we live happily ever after with Mr. or Ms. Right?

 

Fortunately, someone else has already given this a lot of thought. Ayurveda has come up with a way to (drum roll) explain the nature of everything in the universe, including your love life.

Ayurveda assigns each of us to a type, according to physical features and personality traits, so we can understand how we relate to the rest of the world, including the other people in it. It’s a big help in communication. In fact, I can say it’s one of the most important things I have ever learned.

Once we understand the system, it becomes clear that we could connect romantically with just about anyone. There are no bad romantic matches, but some combinations are just better than others.

When we’re in love and our relationships make us happy, that love energizes the world around us. Healthy relationships contribute to everyone’s health. Ayurveda says that in a committed relationship, one plus one doesn’t equal two, it equals eleven! That’s because your committed relationship can be the most healing place in your life. The true definition of a great relationship is that it is mutually healing and can energize you and your life in the world. And, if you work at it, it can keep growing and growing, and you will end up more in love than when you met and were already head over heels.

Since there are three basic constitutional types, there are several different possible matches between you and your (potential) sweetie.

So, how do you personalize your love life with Ayurveda? First, Ayurveda suggests a spouse of a different constitution. (That eliminates a third of the pool, already, eh?) This helps you balance each other in the relationship, and prevents your offspring from being too extreme in any one dosha. Two Vatas produce a child who is doubly Vata, for example- much harder to keep in emotional and physical balance. 

All this boils down to the idea that Kaphas and Vatas do best when married to each other, and Pitta does best when married to Vata or Kapha.

Let’s take a quick look at the combinations:
• Vata with Vata- Neither of you balances the checkbook
• Vata with Pitta- Cold balances hot. Good.
• Vata with Kapha- Light balances heavy. Best.
• Pitta with Pitta- Kitchen warfare! Likely the worst.
• Pitta with Kapha- Hot balances cold. Good.
• Kapha with Kapha. Neither of you gets out of the double wide recliner.

By the way, I am a Kapha, and my wife is a Vata, so we make a good match. We have a long, happy marriage.

If you do end up with someone of your same constitution, it’s not a disaster. There are great communication and lifestyle tools you can learn, which will help keep your relationship bliss on an even keel.

Have you had any experience matching up with your honey using Ayurveda, or some other system? How’s it working out?

 


13 Comments

  • Jessica says:

    I am a kapha-pitta woman. What dosha will be compatible with my constitution(s)?
    Thank you 🙂

  • Yogi says:

    Thank you for your question, Jessica! A person of vata constitution might be a compatible partner for you. Be well! ~Karta Purkh Singh Khalsa

  • Rosemary says:

    How do tell what type doha am I ?

  • Yogi says:

    Hi Rosemary! We have a dosha quiz here on our website that gathers information about your basic nature. Click here to take the quiz and discover your dosha!

  • mimi bulk says:

    I am Vata – pitta, and my husband is Pitta. We can never agree on anything! It has been a total nightmare. Any advice ?
    Thanks.

  • Becca Lesser says:

    Hi Mimi,

    Thanks for your question! You may find another blog post from this series, The Doshas and Personal Relationships, useful for learning more about both your and your husband’s constitution and their respective characteristics.

    I hope this helps!

  • PS says:

    Sorry but I m no expert but I ve some doubt. You said vatta n Kapha are good match. I know another school of thought which says vata n Kapha ain’t good match. They gave me example as well say wife who is vata on a Sunday morning wants to go out for movie but husband is Kapha and wife is pursuing her to come along and meanwhile she even books ticket n cab n hubby says now he wants to sleep. What is really truth which match is better ?

  • Becca Lesser says:

    Hi there PS, thanks for your question!

    As our post indicates, communication and lifestyle tools can help to support a match between doshas that may otherwise be considered less than compatible. If you’re interested in learning more, you may find another blog post from this series, The Doshas and Personal Relationships useful for further reading 🙂

    Thanks again for reaching out, and be well!

    I hope this helps!

  • Liz says:

    As a Vata, I found a great match in a Kapha person. When my husband was unbalanced there were issues, but soon after he followed a Kapha balancing diet, he has energy and lost the weight.

  • Dominika says:

    Hare Krsna!
    I am Vata Kapha, and thinking what is best match for me?:)
    Thank You:)

  • Yogi says:

    Hi Dominika,

    Thanks for your question! You may find another blog post from this series, The Doshas and Personal Relationships, useful for learning more about both your constitution and characteristics of a potential match.

    We hope this helps!

  • Christina Gonzalez says:

    Hello. Im very confused. Ive taken several dosha tests/quizzes and ive gotten different results on all. One said im a pitta/vata, others say im a kapha, and most say Im a pitta. How do I know which to follow when it comes to diet & lifestyle as the suggestions can be quite opposite. Please help. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

  • Yogi says:

    Hi there Christina,

    Thanks so much for your question! You may find our blog post, Your Ayurvedic Constitution, helpful for learning more! As discussed in that post, there are endless possible body types or combinations of Vata, Pitta, and Kapha constitutions, because not all bodies manifest the tendencies of one primary dosha. There are dual-dosha types and even a tri-dosha type in which all three-vata, pitta and kapha-are about equally strong. You can learn more about your constitution by taking our Dosha quiz. We hope this information is helpful!

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